How do you stop caring about what other people think of you?

Too many people downplay themselves because they’re afraid of what other people might think about them. That fear comes from these expectations that this world/society has put on what it looks like to be a human in today’s world.

What does it mean to be successful? smart? beautiful? accomplished? We have all these standards that society/people literally just made up. There’s no rulebook that says you have to be these things.

Recognize that everything that a person has determined to be good/bad/right/wrong is MADE UP. Literally everything is made up. Personally, I’m going to live my life and set my standards not based on what other people think, but what God has said. That’s just me, ya’ll. When you start to live your life based on that, it gives you so much freedom to act in a way that is most fulfilling to you; not based on someone else has deemed the right way to be or act.

It all just comes down to you being afraid that people are gonna judge you for choosing a network marketing structure for your work vs a standard “real” 9-5 job. But in reality, that person just believes that the right way to earn money is to have a “real” job in an office that earns a paycheck. That’s that person’s belief. That’s what society has taught that person that is right/acceptable. But that’s not the truth!

The truth is there are tooons of acceptable ways to make an income; network marketing being one of them. If you truly believe that and you stop letting someone else’s ideals about what a “real” job is get to you, then you free yourself from caring if someone else thinks that network marketing isn’t a “real” job. You get to say “Hey, I really don’t care about their opinion because that’s their belief and idea based on what society has taught them.”

To be honest, I feel really bad for people who are trapped under society’s standards. People who have clung on to what society has projected to be the “real” and “proper” way to live. This places a cap on you in so many areas of your life without you even knowing it. That is what keeps people from feeling confident about exactly who they are because society has said this is the way you’re supposed to be. And if you don’t meet society’s standards then you’re always going to feel like you’re not enough.

This is precisely why I don’t feel fazed by the people who are anti-MLM because I know that they’re simply trapped in society’s standards. They just haven’t understood what it looks like to live life outside of those standards. They’re free to think whatever they want because that’s their personal opinion. I’m gonna show up and do what I do anyways because I’m so confident in my truth. As long as you’re not one of those people that do network marketing in a slimy way, then this business model is legit. I do believe that with my whole heart. I also believe that if we do network marketing the way it should be done, then there’s nothing to be said to others that don’t get it. They will learn simply by looking at how we do it differently.

You just gotta be so good with you, and who you are that anyone else’s belief is irrelevant.

Once you embody that then you won’t care about others’ opinions! You know what you know, you believe what you believe, and you are so good with that.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks; it doesn’t matter what anyone else believes because you are so full with you.

Imagine you have a cup filled with your beliefs. If that cup is filled to the brim, anyone that tries to fill that cup with their beliefs will just fall right back out. There’s simply no room left for it in your cup. There’s some much belief in there that anything that tries to fall in it won’t even make a ripple.

You have to build your own belief up so fully. Erase everything that you have once believed that is “right” or “acceptable” and decide what your own beliefs are going to be. If you’re feeling a lack of confidence in your relationships, in your appearance, in your life, it’s only because you have adapted beliefs based on what society has said. Not only society, but this can also be from what your parents have taught you growing up. So now, if you don’t meet those standards then you become insecure and feel like you’re not living life as you should based on those ideals.

The way that you run your biz and live your life, it doesn’t have to look like everyone else’s. It doesn’t have to fit in society’s standards. you get to decide what is good for yourself and what fits you and your beliefs are the best.

You get to rewrite your truth.

It’s hard to let go of your old beliefs if you’ve been believing that for years. But you get to rewrite your truth. Know what you truly believe in your core and repeat that to yourself over and over again until it gets bigger than your old belief. That old belief has been there for so long that it already feels real to you. You gotta be self-aware that every time you think you should be doing this and that, it’s only because of your old belief. As you do that you’re gonna start being more confident in that area because you’re starting to build that belief up.

Build that belief up so strongly that it’s now gonna be your new truth.

If you’re holding yourself back from certain characteristics that God gave you because you’re afraid of what someone else might think, then you’re squandering so much of your greatness. As long as you’re in alignment with how God wants you to be then you’re good and fulfilled. 

I hope this has helped you one way or another! If you wanna dig in deeper, listen to the full episode 41 | How to Stop Caring What Other People Think About You